16 Days of Action on Violence Against Women

This is something that I meant to post on Friday, but technical difficulties mean that it has been delayed.

Friday the 25th November was the International Day Against Violence Against Women, and the 10th December is International Human Rights Day. The sixteen days connecting these dates have been taken up across the world as the 16 Days of Action on Violence Against Women. By connecting these two days, it is hoped that the message that women's rights are human rights, and are an international issue, will get across.

Some of the issues that are being taken up are as follows: domestic violence, sexual violence, childhood sexual abuse, prostitution and exploitation and human trafficking.

I've been facilitating this campaign at work, which means I've had the opportunity to liaise with numerous fantastic organizations, including Women's Aid, Rape Crisis Scotland, Edinburgh Women's Rape and Sexual Abuse Centre and Shakti Women's Aid. These guys have been kind enough to provide me with copious amounts of materials, from posters to leaflets to in-depth info.

What it has also made me realise is that this blog doesn't actually link to any support agencies, despite it's sometimes distressing content. To rectify that I have summarised the basic info for the 4 main agencies I worked with:

Edinburgh Women's Rape and Sexual Abuse Centre: http://www.ewrasac.org.uk/

EWRASAC provides support for women aged 12 and over and members of the transgender community who have experienced rape and sexual abuse, from support and advocacy to specific problems like dealing with panic attacks and self-harm. They also have information for families of those who have been raped or sexually assaulted.

They can also be contacted by telephone on 0131 5569437

Edinburgh Women's Aid: http://edinwomensaid.co.uk/

They support women and children at risk of violence (of any kind, not just physical) by partners or ex-partners. Services include refuge accommodation, young people's services and resettlement.

Telephone: 0131 315 8110

Shakti Women's Aid: http://www.shaktiedinburgh.co.uk/

For women of black and ethnic minority communities, including Eastern Europe, South East Asia and the Middle East.

Telephone: 0131 475 2399

Rape Crisis Scotland: http://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk/

The national centre for rape crisis work in Scotland, they operate the out of hours telephone service and run fantastic campaigns.

The 'not ever' campaign: http://www.notever.co.uk/the-campaign/

This is not an invitation to rape me: http://www.thisisnotaninvitationtorapeme.co.uk/

Telephone: 08088 01 03 02

Information and help after rape and sexual assault, a Scottish Government Document - http://www.scotland.gov.uk/Resource/Doc/350957/0117632.pdf

Babies v Buses: Can Men Not Push Buggies?

I stumbled across this article earlier:

http://www.scotsman.com/news/transport/mums_rev_up_for_new_fight_over_pram_ban_1_1965185

Pretty much a rehash of the ever-joyous baby v bus debate that pops up to annoy Lothian Buses annually.

However, it really, really upsets me that this is all about mums with buggies. I won't deny that when I do take the bus, the majority of those getting on with babies are women, but this has sparked an interesting chain of thought: can men push buggies? Are men so pumped up with testosterone that their masculinity makes them baulk at the very sight of those toothless wonders? Indeed, does the penis actually prevent one from pushing a buggy?

And then I remember that, actually, I frequently see men with babies on buses. Heaven forfend, even men with babies in buggies on buses.

It calls to mind the endless scenarios I've seen of parents telling off their little boys: "stop pushing that buggy; you're not a girl!" It saddens me that girls are socialized from a young age to care for children, whilst boys are warned off it - and for what purpose? For the preposterous notion that doing 'girly' things makes them gay? Do we want to see our sons as bad fathers?!

The perpetuation of male breadwinner/female caregiver stereotypes exemplify the everyday fights that we all need to partake in. This may seem like a 'small' issue in a supposedly equal society, but it is in the small things that we find the roots of inequality.

News So Appalling That I May Transform into the Hulk

This is one of the most horrific articles I've ever read: http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/nov/04/turkish-court-reduces-rape-sentences

A 13 year old girl was sold by two men for sex which subsequently resulted in her being raped by26 men. I may have to repeat that: TWENTY-SIX. These men included teachers and civil servants who have been sentenced for disturbingly short sentences (those who sold her for 9 years and the rapists for 1-6 years). Yet now, those sentences may be cut further because she "consented".

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How, in the name of all that is good can a 13 year old girl actually consent in this situation? I've mentioned before that I disagree with consent-focused rape laws, but I don't think I've ever given a full explanation of why. So, oh lucky ones, I shall. Gather round and listen to my words of wisdom kiddly-winks...

Consent is, by it's very definition, an agreement reached by two people in a position of equality. Now, I won't go so far as some have, and claim that due to the ongoing power of patriarchy all sex between men and women is not actually 'consensual' as they can never be equal. I think this is a very monolithic view of patriarchy, and if we do not understand the specific permutations at work then we can, in fact, credit it with too much power, whilst ignoring the real battlegrounds.

Instead, I argue that consent is essentially meaningless in the realm of sexual negotiation. The law does not really have the means to provide legislate for the minutae of power relations at work in the sexual realm, so it takes a 'single common denominator' approach. To give consent, in the eyes of the law, is to remain silent, to not fight back, to not kick and scream... This is based on two major misunderstandings: 1) the myth of 'real rape' where innocent young virgins are violently violated whilst their continued attempts to fight are overcome by the sheer strength of the vile offender - for a bit of a rant about this see my post on the Ken Clark controversy earlier this year; 2) a complete lack of forethought about the choices a person is framing during the course of their relationship with that person/the attack. It is all very well and good to say that you'd fight back, but what about if you suspected you would be subjected to further violence? What if the attacker had a weapon? What about if the attacker had threatened your family? What if silence is the easiest way for you to deal with the attack? The coercion and violence inherent in the act of rape as demonstrating power on the body of another takes place at a level the law cannot truly legislate, at least if it continues to rely on the overly broad and meaningless concept of 'consent'.

We don't know what sort of choices this child was framing when she was raped, but placing oneself in the shoes of a child being forced to have sex with adults who hold very real power over you is rape. For goodness' sake, she was SOLD - how can she have consented?!

There are two issues at stake in the more specific Turkish context here too - 1) these men may be released because this legal wrangling is stretching the case past the timeframe for prosecution and 2) killings of women increased 1,400% between 2002 and 2009. I can't even begin to comprehend such a figure.